Not sure why I put the effort into this house since we are ALWAYS talking about selling it. But, and there is always a BUT, that time may not be now. So, might as well make the most of it....
I am also reading Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert right now. Have you read it? It is a true account of the author's life as she took a hiatus from her "real life" during a period of self-examination and rediscovery of her life and who she was. She travels to Italy to live for a time to "eat" and just enjoy the visceral pleasure of food and learning the Italian language for the simple beauty of it. She then goes off to India to an Ashram to study the practice of Yoga (and not just the athleticism of it...) under a Guru. "The art of mastering a place of eternal presence"...is how she describes it. Presence...what a powerful word....
After India, she goes to Bali, but I am only in India so I can't tell you about that yet.
She was about my age when she took this journey, however, she was not a wife and mother (which, I might add, was a reason for this trip of self-actualization). So much meaning in those two words.... I wouldn't want it any other way of course, but don't you ever wonder, those of my lovely readers who are also wives and mothers....where YOU are in that? There was more to me once....I was not always a wife and mother. Now don't get me wrong....I LOVE BEING A WIFE AND MOTHER!! The greatest of my life's joys have been because I have taken this path. I'd say that those two roles have certainly helped me become who I am meant to be and will be a part of who I am in the end of my days...but the presence of who I am these days...hmmm... It is interesting. Some days I do feel the tug inside - that heather inside...crazy, silly, creative, desiring to DO something great, remembering my favorite colors, flavors, songs...but somedays, well......I am just not there. But in the end, all of it will make up who I am.
This is my favorite quote and it's from an ancient Yogic text that she quotes in the book: "It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else's life with perfection."
Interesting thoughts Heather, and yes, I think most of us moms/wives have felt that internal tug-of-war. Sometimes I can't remember WHO I was and it bothers me. I wonder if it is selfishness to desire that person sometimes. I love my family more than my life, and I guess I feel like in ways we do sacrifice a part of ourselves in order to BE who we are today. Okay...I'm rambling. Can't wait to see the finished project!
ReplyDeleteEat, Pray, Love. Great book, thought provoking...
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